Stop Making It Personal

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7 Responses to “Stop Making It Personal”

  1. December 18, 2012


    That was good!

  2. December 18, 2012


    Excellent and I am guilty of “I”.

    Question1: There is the pre-event and the post-event, I understand the negative outcome of a post-event. If the outcome of the post-event is positive, I assume you still want to avoid the word “I” (I hit a great shot or made a great putt…) and still use “that”, otherwise it would be difficult to move away from the negative “I”

    What about using “I” in the pre-event. (I can hit this shot or I can get it close to the pin, I can make this putt, ect…) I suspect if the outcome is not want I wanted, it would be too quick to use the negative “I” in frustration. I would think you want to use the positive “I” in the pre-event to put the inner game on a positive note and then for post-event always use “that” and avoid “I” or “my”.

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      December 18, 2012

      David Breslow

      Hi Randy,

      You bring up excellent points! Thank you.

      Think of it this way. When it’s positive, optimisitic, high energy–MAKE IT PERSONAL so YES…use the word “I”.

      When it’s judgmental, critical and self denegrating–USE “THAT” AND DO NOT MAKE IT PERSONAL.

      Always consider the impact on you, the person/golfer. Do you want to feel good and “UP”?–Then make it personal for sure,

      Make sense?

      Your considerations are right on!

  3. December 18, 2012


    What is the difference between your Wired to Win book and the Box set appearing above. I am on a fixed income and I am thinking of getting your book, mainly because it is cheaper, but also because I am a better reader than listener. (audio/video discs vs book). What is the cost-benefit plus of the Box set?


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      December 19, 2012

      David Breslow

      Hi Randy,

      The book is older and came out befor the Wired to Win program.
      Some of the insights are in the book but the book is not the 7 Laws.


      Of course–the book is always less expensive but it is not updated and does not contain the 7 Laws and other insights like the audio does.

      I’m basing the following on feedback from other golfers…


      Book will benefit you in some ways–help open your eyes and offer some insights that led to the eventual Wired to Win Coaching and now Audio program. People who have read it, loved it because it is based on the truths I talk about all the time–that are not often spoken about in Sports Psychology models, etc. People who have read the book do find mental and emotional changes take place.

      Audio–benefits folks on many levels (on and off the golf course) and with greater consistency. Why? It contains material (the Laws) and insights the book does not. The shifts made tend to be faster and more consistent as a result and many report the impact in other parts of their lives is amazing.

      Also–you have 24/7/365 access to it so it there for you to listen to and view the 8 study guides that come with it (so you have the written word as well).

      Price–book is $13.95 (I think?)
      Audio–retails for $197 and with discount through Paul Wilson–using code mentioned on this site–it is only $147

      It all depends on what’s comfortable for you and the level of change you’re looking for. The Audio–yes, more money and more benefit too.

      Hope this helps?

  4. This IS excellent medicine! Thanks for the tip.

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